What To Say Wednesday: Times When Your Support Can Mean the Most

What to say Wednesday 1Today’s What to Say Wednesday tip may seem like odd timing.

It’s the end of August, and there aren’t any major holidays for awhile. But that’s just the point. Just imagining each holiday without your baby is hard.

So here is today’s tip: Reach out to families of loss around holidays.

Near the end of July, I was in Hobby Lobby, and saw all of the “Christmas in July” things up. I wanted to run away. I didn’t want it to be Christmas, and I didn’t want to be reminded of the emptiness that will be in our home this Christmas season. Instead of a “My First Christmas” ornament for Esther, we will have one that says “In Loving Memory.” Instead of two happy girls, we will have only one. Instead of four of us enjoying the season together, there will only be three. Even less than last year since Esther was in my belly for her very first and last Christmas here on earth. The day we found out we were pregnant was the day we put up our tree. Maybe that’s why seeing the trees and ornaments made me feel sick. I can’t imagine her not being here.

There is something about holidays that make a mommy miss her baby even more. Whether it be Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter, or Mother’s day, each holiday can represent something really special between a mother and her children. This holiday season coming up, remember the mommies and daddies who are missing their babies. Even if they are smiling and appear to be strong for everyone else, I can assure you, they are thinking about ALL their children. A kind word or simple note of care could really mean the world to a family separated between earth and heaven.

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